The Auckland Lair

[mathmo]

RULES


Full Access

This is the Auckland Lair forums, anybody may join and will automatically be a "newbie". However to be able to fully view all the forums you need to become a full member. Simply meet any of the current full members, go and do some approaches and you will be upgraded (get them to PM me with the details).

Until then you will only be able to view forum announcements and the newbie's forum. I've chosen this two tiered systems because it gives the best of both worlds. An openness that allows anybody to join and get started, while at the same time allowing a very high level of privacy for those who desire it.


Posting

There is no point in posting if your posts are unreadable

Please "Preview" you posts once over before pressing the "Submit" button

Please use a basic spell checking tool.

Please use paragraphs.

Please avoid over using CAPS in your posts.

Please do not quote entire posts by other people in the same thread.

Please do not make contentless posts that don't add anything to the discussion.

Privacy

This is a private community. As a member of it you can be assured that your privacy will be respected. However you have a personal responsibility to assure and respect other peoples privacy too.

The basics of privacy:

- Never tell anyone that another member is part of the community

- Don't talk about the game with your friends especially in the company of another community member

- For your personal privacy it is generally advised that you don't tell others about the community. This is especially true if you are a newbie as the most common mistakes about telling others about the community occur during this period. Although telling other people about the community can be seen to benefit them, in the vast majority of cases doing this can cause serious repercussions to yourself and your relationships with other people in your social circle.

- When introducing someone from the community to a friend use there real name.

- Just because you have met someone from the community doesn't mean they want you to also be a part of there social circle outside of the community. Feel free to wave or say a quick "hi" to someone you have met. Strongly avoid forcing yourself on them and there social circle. Be considerate of others, don't be needy.

- Never attempt to "game" a friend of a community member that you have been introduced to by that member. If share or end up sharing a similar social circle, declare your intentions to your community brother first.

- Be mindful of your own privacy and don't post any of your own contact details in the open newbie forum.

Direction

Members of this forum are here for a lot of different reasons. Some people just want to sleep with a lot of women. Some people want a long-term relationship with there "perfect" girl. Some people want to expand there social circle or improve there life.

I have the utmost respect for anyone that is taking action, improving themselves in whatever form and pursuing what they want to get out of this community. If you have a different reason for being here than someone else that is a great thing. But there is no right or wrong reason for wanting to be a part of the community as long as you are here to improve upon yourself.

Please respect other peoples direction. For example if a member decides that, with an abundance of women in his life, he wants to enter a long term relationship with one of them this is not "one itus" or a disease (lol). Remember that you are not better than someone just because you have a different goal.

However if you feel a member is settling for second best, please take it upon yourself to talk with him as a friend. Give him the support and encouragement to remember why he joined this community in the first place and what he wanted to get out of it. Remind him that you can truly have anything you want as long as you are prepared to take action. Remind him that at the end of the day it is HIS decision and you are merely here to support and encourage him to be his best.


Women Hating

The members of this forum are here for many reasons. But the one reason that is common to all is the love of women. Guys here focus on improving there skills to they can get better results with women.

If you HATE women, please don't post here. Go see a psychologist instead.

Although we defiantly want to encourage a fun and relaxed feeling to this forum. Consistent malicious "Hating on women" will be taken very seriously.


Seniority

We are all here to learn from each other. Everyone is entitled to there opinion. Although like any community, people who consistently contribute good information are appreciated by other members. A newbie still has just as much entitlement to disagree with a long term member and vice versa. It should never be reasoned on these forums that a long term member is right, simply because he is a long term member.

If you are a long term member, please take it as your role to help newbies find the answers for themselves in a constructive way. We were all newbies once. The community has grown as we have been a part of it and we now have the opportunity to give newbies the kind of support and encouragement to help them find a shorter path to success. Perhaps they will teach us something along the way

On a related point, do not brag/boast. Everybody will get more out of this if we are all honest with ourselves and each other. There is nothing to be achieved eventually by being deceptive.


Flaming

It is a simple fact that there are more people on here giving the right kind of advice than there are bad. But is this enough? And what can you do when someone posts something stupid?

Option 1) IGNORE THEM. Surely there can be nothing more damaging to someone's ego than realising that they are just like a crazy old man, babbling away to themselves with no one around that deems it worth responding to there posts. It's a waste of your time. It's certainly a waste of my time trying to clean threads up to the point where newbies can benefit from them again. I care a whole lot less about some immature trouble maker than everyone else that could actually benefit from good threads.

Option 2) DISAGREE. How about simply disagreeing with them, rather than personally attacking them. The second best thing to people not responding to ego driven posts is 10 people simply disagreeing with it. Buy giving them the excuse to launch into a flame war with you, you are preventing the overwhelming majority (us) from indicating that we also disagree, which is the whole idea.

Option 3) SORT IT OUT OFF THE LAIR. No explanation needed


You will be considered to be flaming if it is evident that you are personally attacking someone because of something they said. - Flaming

e.g. "That's a lot of shit."

Rather than disagreeing with them and offering a different perspective in a constructive way - Constructive Criticism

e.g. "I wouldn't say that what you said is that great... but possible to pull off? Yes. Personally I feel that this would put you on the back foot. Only one way to find out, try it out!"


Trolling